Marriage is a beautiful gift from God, but let’s be honest—it's not always easy. If you’ve been married for any length of time, you know that challenges come in all forms.
Maybe it’s a stressful season at work causing tension at home, or perhaps you and your spouse aren’t seeing eye to eye on finances, parenting, or even something as small as what to watch on TV.
The truth is, every marriage faces struggles. But the good news is that God’s Word is filled with timeless wisdom to help us not only survive but thrive in marriage.
Whether you’re newly married or have been together for decades, these biblical lessons can guide you toward a relationship that reflects God’s love and grace.
1. Love as Christ Loved the Church
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." – Ephesians 5:25
One of the most humbling truths about marriage is that it requires selflessness. Christ’s love for the church is sacrificial—He gave everything for us. This verse isn’t just for husbands; it’s a reminder for both spouses to love each other sacrificially, putting the other’s needs above our own.
I remember a time when my spouse was overwhelmed with work, and I felt frustrated because I wasn’t getting the attention I wanted. It wasn’t until I prayed and asked God to help me love selflessly that I realized I could serve by simply being present and supportive.
Action Step:
This week, think of one way you can demonstrate sacrificial love. It could be as simple as taking over a chore your spouse dislikes or planning a surprise date night.
2. Speak with Kindness
"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." – Proverbs 15:1
Have you ever said something in the heat of the moment and immediately regretted it? I certainly have. Words are powerful—they can either build bridges or burn them. This verse reminds us to choose kindness, especially when emotions run high.
When my spouse and I disagree, I’ve learned to pause before responding. A quick prayer asking God for wisdom has saved us from countless unnecessary arguments.
Action Step:
The next time you’re tempted to respond harshly, take a deep breath and pray silently. Then, choose words that encourage rather than tear down.
3. Keep No Record of Wrongs
"Love... keeps no record of wrongs." – 1 Corinthians 13:5
This is a tough one. When your spouse forgets an anniversary or says something hurtful, it’s tempting to hold onto that offense. But love, as defined by Scripture, chooses forgiveness.
I’ll never forget a season in our marriage when resentment started to build. I realized I was keeping a mental list of every mistake my spouse had made. It wasn’t until I asked God for help in letting go that I experienced freedom and peace in our relationship.
Action Step:
If you’ve been holding onto past hurts, take time today to release them in prayer. Consider sharing your feelings with your spouse in a loving, grace-filled way.
4. Build Each Other Up
"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." – 1 Thessalonians 5:11
In a world full of negativity, your spouse should be your biggest source of encouragement—and vice versa. It’s easy to point out flaws, but imagine the impact of consistently affirming their strengths.
I’ve found that a simple compliment or a heartfelt “thank you” can brighten my spouse’s entire day. And when they do the same for me, it strengthens our bond in ways I can’t even describe.
Action Step:
Make it a goal to give your spouse at least one genuine compliment or word of encouragement every day this week. Watch how it transforms your relationship.
5. Seek God Together
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." – Matthew 6:33
There’s something powerful about seeking God as a couple. When my spouse and I began praying together regularly, it deepened our connection—not just spiritually but emotionally. It reminded us that we’re on the same team, working toward the same goal: glorifying God through our marriage.
If you’ve never prayed or read the Bible together, start small. Even five minutes a day can make a difference.
Action Step:
Set aside time this week to pray or do a short devotional together. Ask God to guide your marriage and strengthen your bond.
Closing Encouragement
Marriage isn’t always smooth sailing, but it’s worth every effort. When we align our relationship with God’s Word, we create a foundation that can withstand any storm.
If you’re struggling, remember this: You’re not alone, and God is with you. Lean on Him, love selflessly, and never stop building each other up.
What’s one lesson or piece of advice that has strengthened your marriage? Share your story in the comments—we’d love to hear from you!
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